Everybody tells you to have self-care after you have a baby. Babies take a lot of time, and it can be hard to find time to your self, but I don’t love the current idea of self-care. Telling a new mom to have self-care shouldn’t mean that we’re telling her to take a shower. Within a few weeks after I had my son, I remember realizing that I didn’t take any time to have “self-care”. I had heard that you are more at risk for postpartum depression if you aren’t taking care of yourself. I started stressing about how I could fix this. Suddenly, I felt so pressured to take…